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Friday Link Love

Today I want to share the blogs that I have found most helpful in getting into blogging, writing for blogs, being positive, changing lifestyles, and things to consider when stepping out into the void of non-conformity.

Over the last decade that I’ve been doing business online a multitude of trends have come and many have gone but those who remain and have build valuable enterprises are those who understand that they’re in the business of being useful.

~ Darren Rowse

It takes guts to say, “I read this and you should too.” The guts to care enough about our culture (and your friends) to move it forward and to stand for something.

~ Seth Godin

Nobody is perfect and nobody gets everything they want all at once. Have patience. In time you’ll get what you need. Just focus on loving and accepting yourself TODAY (perfectly imperfect). Forget what other people think or say or expect of you, they have a lot to work on as well.

As a matter of fact feel sorry for them, the harder they are on you, multiply that by 100x and that’s how they treat themselves! Ouch. That sucks


In Praise of Limits

We live in a world of abundance, often to the point of excess: we can buy anything anytime, consume as much of the Internet as we want, eat anything all the time, work as much as our bodies will allow.

With so much available, it can become overwhelming, unhealthy, unbalanced.


Are there blogs or people out there who have made a difference in your life? I’d love to hear about them.

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Have a positive and productive day!


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Networking and the Ick Factor


Gosh I hate that word. It sounds so… cold, so self-serving.

I’ve started my blog, signed up with Twitter, reactivated Facebook (long story). I’ve read tons of stuff about how to ‘use’ social media to promote one’s self, and mostly the advice is good, except I can’t seem to get over this word.

It’s probably just semantics though because I love the idea of connecting with others, anywhere in the world, to share stuff, to help each other in our endeavors.

When I think about where I want to go, where I want to be in three or five years, I can envision being part of a community of people whom I appreciate and who appreciate me. I can envision contributing to their stuff and having them contribute to mine. I love cheering people on, especially creative people who do things that are courageous and ‘outside the box’.

I’m a fan girl.

I am in love with the idea that global online communities can help one another. I am in love with the entrepreneurial spirit I see growing in leaps and bounds these days. I am in love with the opportunities the online world has opened up. I’m in love with seeing people become successful by following their hearts and forging their own path.

I love that people are convinced that what they have to give is so valuable that they give it away for free. (yes, it’s a paradox) I love that they create and sell other things for reasonable prices to those who want them. I love that people are becoming successful by giving their work and wisdom away. They have immense faith in themselves and others. They model the concept of abundance.

It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle. Marvelous.

Networking can be about that. Social media can be a way to find and nurture those kinds of connections.

It’s all about connecting with others. It’s about celebrating who we are and sharing our gifts with others, it’s about believing we have something unique and valuable to offer and if we put our stuff out there we will attract those people who need what we have to give. We will find those people who have what we need too. A mutually beneficial way of life.

This is the very antithesis of what we’ve been taught. We have been taught to hold tight to what is ‘ours’, to ‘save’, to jealously guard our stuff… to grab all we can. We’ve been taught to use others to get more for ourselves. We’ve been taught to never give without expecting something in return.

Sometimes networking can be about that too, a lot of times it is. Getting more clients, selling something just for personal gain, using social media just to promote a product or service without any spirit of real community. This is the part that I hate.

Networking, ick.

Maybe I will just replace it with the word connecting.

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Posted by on April 12, 2012 in Goals, Success


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Too Lazy to be a Wage Slave

I don’t have a job.

I’m lazy.

There, I said it. It’s true. I am.

In our culture not having a job is looked upon with suspicion, even contempt. There are words to describe such people like; slacker, freeloader, bum, ne’er-do-well, and my favorite, LAZY.

There’s a belief that to be a worthy person you must work, as an employee, at a job, for someone else. Or be an employer. A boss.

I’m neither. Although if I needed help in my endeavors and I could offer someone something of value for their skills and creativity I certainly would do so. Only on a contract basis though, because I believe wages, trading time for money, is ridiculous, disrespectful and unproductive.

I’m lazy because I need a good reason to do anything. If something doesn’t make sense to me I won’t do it. Whatever it is.

I’m lazy because I’m logical. I’m lazy because I am incapable of swallowing unchallenged beliefs. I’m lazy because I think for myself… and I won’t believe things just because they are ‘common sense’ or cultural assumptions. I won’t do things because of ‘tradition’, or “that’s the way it is”, or “that’s the way we’ve always done it”, or any kind of non-answer to my questions. I despise unspoken rules.

I also don’t respond well to guilt trips and that seems to really piss people off, but that’s another post for another day.

I’m lazy because I won’t do anything I find unethical or don’t personally believe in.

The dichotomy here is that thinking for yourself is hard work. Researching and evaluating good information to actually make an informed choice is hard work. Challenging one’s own belief systems is uncomfortable, sometimes painful. Challenging the status quo is unpopular and it has very real social consequences, it is NOT easy.

It takes courage to choose to not follow the crowd. It takes courage to reject what’s known as common sense.

I’m not lazy because I’m afraid of hard work, or even dislike hard work. I’m lazy because what I do, what I spend my time and energy on, has to be something I can put my heart into. I’m lazy because I have chosen to do the things that bring me joy. I’m lazy because I don’t buy into the idea that I need a job to make a living.

Steve Pavlina has a great article here about the lie of needing a job.

I’m lazy because I need to use my creativity to be happy and most employers really don’t want that. I’m lazy because I don’t see the point of being somewhere for eight hours a day when the work could be done in five, or from home, or in the middle of the night.

I’m lazy because I despise office politics and I refuse to suck up to anybody. I’m lazy because I have a million great ideas to make something better, more effective, add greater value, and contribute to the world but in most work environments creative thinking is shut down in a heartbeat.

It’s not wanted.

What is wanted is an automaton, obedient, mediocre. Just keep your head down, play the game and do the mind-numbing, soul-sucking and mostly unnecessary tasks given, in the way you are told.

Sorry, can’t do it.

I’m too lazy to be a wage slave.

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Posted by on April 10, 2012 in Happiness, Success


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