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Humour Helps Procrastination

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From: waitbutwhy.com

So I have been doing some surfing research on procrastination, but really what I’ve been doing is procrastinating about writing another blog post on procrastination.

Sad.

It’s so easy to beat ourselves up about not doing the things we know we should, and even the things we want to do… because beating ourselves up is actually another form of procrastination. Procrastination becomes a habit and the mind can find all sorts of creative ways to not make something happen and justify it as well.

The mind is a tricky thing, isn’t it?

Being a procrastinator is ultimately very tiring though. It’s depressing and this leads to finding even more ways to procrastinate, because then I try to find things to entertain myself with to avoid the guilt of my procrastination and lack of productivity. Knowing in the back of my mind that my dreams are not coming true because I am a world-class procrastinator sucks. So I’ll find myself surfing the web watching cat videos, sitting in front of the TV while some useless show is on, or rereading a novel for the fourth time. It takes my mind off the procrastination.

“Anyone can do any amount of work, provided it isn’t the work he is supposed to be doing at that moment.”

~Robert Benchley

Avoiding guilt isn’t going to help. So I thought about other obstacles I have faced and how I’ve dealt with them. ADD is one of my biggest challenges. Having all channels in my head on at once, all the time and not being able to focus on just one has caused me some grief. It’s affected most areas of my life and I’ve struggled with depression because of it. When I first began to try to deal with it I found that laughing at some of the foibles of being ADD was very helpful. I constantly lose my keys… like EVERY SINGLE DAY, sometimes several times a day… I used to think to myself, “how can you be so stupid?” I don’t talk to myself like that anymore…it’s not helpful. It’s stressful and when I’m stressed it’s much harder to focus.

Being able to laugh at oneself is a very useful key in approaching any problem that lowers ones self-esteem. I’ve used it with my ADD, because having ADD isn’t something that’s going to go away and when I scourge myself for the symptoms which often can really mess things up for me, it just makes it worse.

But laughing at myself when I do something ‘ADD’ helps a lot. Then I’m able to take it in stride and move on, without the energy sucking feelings that I’m too messed up, or not as smart as others, or whatever crap runs through my head.

Tim Urban over at Wait But Why has captured the mind of the procrastinator in a hilarious but accurate way. Of all the articles I’ve read on it so far his resonates with me the most. He uses humour to describe it and to tackle it. I was crying laughing out loud and agreeing with his take on this insidious problem.

Tim’s is a playful yet insightful look at what happens inside the mind of the procrastinator and he also has some great ideas on how to change it. Go check it out…

http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

 

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Friday Link Love

Today I want to share the blogs that I have found most helpful in getting into blogging, writing for blogs, being positive, changing lifestyles, and things to consider when stepping out into the void of non-conformity.

Over the last decade that I’ve been doing business online a multitude of trends have come and many have gone but those who remain and have build valuable enterprises are those who understand that they’re in the business of being useful.

~ Darren Rowse  http://www.problogger.net


It takes guts to say, “I read this and you should too.” The guts to care enough about our culture (and your friends) to move it forward and to stand for something.

~ Seth Godin  http://www.sethgodin.com


Nobody is perfect and nobody gets everything they want all at once. Have patience. In time you’ll get what you need. Just focus on loving and accepting yourself TODAY (perfectly imperfect). Forget what other people think or say or expect of you, they have a lot to work on as well.

As a matter of fact feel sorry for them, the harder they are on you, multiply that by 100x and that’s how they treat themselves! Ouch. That sucks

~ http://1000lifelessons.com


In Praise of Limits

We live in a world of abundance, often to the point of excess: we can buy anything anytime, consume as much of the Internet as we want, eat anything all the time, work as much as our bodies will allow.

With so much available, it can become overwhelming, unhealthy, unbalanced.

~ http://zenhabits.net

Are there blogs or people out there who have made a difference in your life? I’d love to hear about them.

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Have a positive and productive day!

 
 

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The News is Killing You

I had a reply on a forum I belong to today. The poster stated that she believed that most people are, “self-aggrandizing, greedy pompous twits”. Sometimes I agree with that… and it frustrates me to no end how stupid people can be sometimes, and yes, selfish and greedy. But that too is a matter of perspective. There are very many people who are not like that. There are a lot of people who are doing a ton of good in the world… there are bright and giving and innovative people… lots of them.

I didn’t know that for the longest time, and I despaired.

I can only relate my own experience but a few years back I read something on positive thinking (ya ya I know.. a lot of it is woo – but stick with me) because of depression… and it suggested something interesting. It suggested that one stop consuming ‘news’, especially television but also newspapers, and engaging in gossip (commiseration in particular). It said that people need reasons to bond and one of the easiest ways is to bond in shared misery, as well bonding in joint criticism. It stated that these were the basis of most media news these days but that it was a false way to bond, and build community in the long run. I thought about it, a lot.

It was a challenge to stop watching TV altogether. (And radio news and newspapers as well)

I did… for over a year.

Then it suggested seeking out the good reports, finding the news that is about the good people do, people to look up to – role models if you will. So I did (the internet makes it much easier than before) and what I found startled me. No, not Mother Teresa… but hundreds of stories of regular people doing awesome shit. Teenagers, kids, stay-at-home moms, entrepreneurs, seniors… sometimes little things like grass-roots fund-raising to build a community center in the arctic, or teenagers starting a gay/straight alliance club at their high school, or people cleaning up a neighborhood, or visiting seniors and the handicapped, or cat rescue. Sometimes bigger things like KIVA -small loans made to small business owners all over the world, or political lobbying, or stopping some big corporation from ruining another wetland, or creating a community garden, creating a co-operative, or taking family volunteer vacations to help dig a well in Africa… or even writing blogs that inform us normal average folks about issues and stirring up activism. The creativity and philanthropy I actually found was staggering – much more than any large organization does. I think many more people would contribute this way if the truth were known. It is not uncommon and people have tons of power to make changes, and there are people doing it. There are lots of them.

I came to the conclusion that most of the news we get is woefully unbalanced and biased. It’s NOT THE TRUTH, about people or events, at all. It’s easy to see the world as cold and selfish and greedy when 99% of the reports we get are about the bad guys, and the disasters, and ‘doom and gloom’ forecasts, and the greedy and the fear-mongers propaganda. It disenfranchises people and makes us all feel helpless and powerless – it creates a dependent victim mentality, it separates and divides, and it is BULLSHIT.

It’s all bullshit, on every level; local, national and global.

But like anything worthwhile – finding the good stuff takes effort. Choosing to pick up the damn spoon and feed ourselves, instead of passively accepting what is given us takes effort.

I still avoid the news… to a point. I still watch very little TV, and I never listen to radio news. And guess what? I’m no longer depressed… and I have much more hope for the world than I did before (and way less anxiety and contempt for mankind) and to this day I actively seek out the good stuff – because it’s real and it’s big, and that’s the world I want to be a part of.

These are some good things I follow:

http://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/

http://www.globalgoodnews.com/  (I don’t follow the Maharishi – but the links to good stories in inspiring)

http://positivenews.org.uk/

http://www.good.is/people-are-awesome

http://www.kiva.org/

http://listverse.com/2011/01/27/10-great-philanthropists-who-are-kids/

What do you do to find out what people are really doing? How do you stay positive in the avalanche of negativity that is our modern media?

Do you believe people are intrinsically good?

 
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Posted by on December 30, 2012 in awesome, Fear, giving, good news, Happiness, positive, stupid

 

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