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So I have been doing some
surfing research on procrastination, but really what I’ve been doing is procrastinating about writing another blog post on procrastination.
It’s so easy to beat ourselves up about not doing the things we know we should, and even the things we want to do… because beating ourselves up is actually another form of procrastination. Procrastination becomes a habit and the mind can find all sorts of creative ways to not make something happen and justify it as well.
The mind is a tricky thing, isn’t it?
Being a procrastinator is ultimately very tiring though. It’s depressing and this leads to finding even more ways to procrastinate, because then I try to find things to entertain myself with to avoid the guilt of my procrastination and lack of productivity. Knowing in the back of my mind that my dreams are not coming true because I am a world-class procrastinator sucks. So I’ll find myself surfing the web watching cat videos, sitting in front of the TV while some useless show is on, or rereading a novel for the fourth time. It takes my mind off the procrastination.
“Anyone can do any amount of work, provided it isn’t the work he is supposed to be doing at that moment.”
Avoiding guilt isn’t going to help. So I thought about other obstacles I have faced and how I’ve dealt with them. ADD is one of my biggest challenges. Having all channels in my head on at once, all the time and not being able to focus on just one has caused me some grief. It’s affected most areas of my life and I’ve struggled with depression because of it. When I first began to try to deal with it I found that laughing at some of the foibles of being ADD was very helpful. I constantly lose my keys… like EVERY SINGLE DAY, sometimes several times a day… I used to think to myself, “how can you be so stupid?” I don’t talk to myself like that anymore…it’s not helpful. It’s stressful and when I’m stressed it’s much harder to focus.
Being able to laugh at oneself is a very useful key in approaching any problem that lowers ones self-esteem. I’ve used it with my ADD, because having ADD isn’t something that’s going to go away and when I scourge myself for the symptoms which often can really mess things up for me, it just makes it worse.
But laughing at myself when I do something ‘ADD’ helps a lot. Then I’m able to take it in stride and move on, without the energy sucking feelings that I’m too messed up, or not as smart as others, or whatever crap runs through my head.
Tim Urban over at Wait But Why has captured the mind of the procrastinator in a hilarious but accurate way. Of all the articles I’ve read on it so far his resonates with me the most. He uses humour to describe it and to tackle it. I was
crying laughing out loud and agreeing with his take on this insidious problem.
Tim’s is a playful yet insightful look at what happens inside the mind of the procrastinator and he also has some great ideas on how to change it. Go check it out…
I’ve watched the weather – not that it’s ever really accurate but I still seem to do it every morning. (?) I’m on my first cup of coffee and thinking about the day ahead. This is the time when I usually have ALL sorts of great plans and hopes for the day. Sometimes I even make lists! This is also my most productive time of the day… at least in my head.
There’s an unwanted pet in my house, a bug of procrastination. I hate it. It’s a creepy, crawly, sneaky little thing that I rarely notice and can mess up a day, and goals, quicker than anything else I know of barring the flu. It’s kind of like a spider really, Quietly wrapping me in silken threads of ‘doing nothing’, and as the day goes on those threads get stickier and more difficult to extricate from. I think I’ll give it a name. Steve. Steve the Spider!
I’m going to explore this mental arachnid and it’s myriad grasping legs that prevent productivity in the next few weeks and share what I find out with you. I’ll start with this little test from Psychology today, maybe it will bring some clarity.
I’d like to hear how you deal with your spider of procrastination in the comments. Let’s name this little bugger so we can deal with it and get on with creating a great life!
and…Good morning all!
Today I want to share the blogs that I have found most helpful in getting into blogging, writing for blogs, being positive, changing lifestyles, and things to consider when stepping out into the void of non-conformity.
Over the last decade that I’ve been doing business online a multitude of trends have come and many have gone but those who remain and have build valuable enterprises are those who understand that they’re in the business of being useful.
~ Darren Rowse http://www.problogger.net
It takes guts to say, “I read this and you should too.” The guts to care enough about our culture (and your friends) to move it forward and to stand for something.
~ Seth Godin http://www.sethgodin.com
Nobody is perfect and nobody gets everything they want all at once. Have patience. In time you’ll get what you need. Just focus on loving and accepting yourself TODAY (perfectly imperfect). Forget what other people think or say or expect of you, they have a lot to work on as well.
As a matter of fact feel sorry for them, the harder they are on you, multiply that by 100x and that’s how they treat themselves! Ouch. That sucks
In Praise of Limits
We live in a world of abundance, often to the point of excess: we can buy anything anytime, consume as much of the Internet as we want, eat anything all the time, work as much as our bodies will allow.
With so much available, it can become overwhelming, unhealthy, unbalanced.
Are there blogs or people out there who have made a difference in your life? I’d love to hear about them.
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Have a positive and productive day!
With all the buzz lately about freedom of speech it has inspired me to tackle this complicated subject. It’s very dear to me, mostly because I am not just a writer, I am an artist. I am also an art historian.
Artists and their cousins, writers, create from within their cultures, their backgrounds and circumstances. Their expression comes, necessarily, from what they live, what they think and what they feel. They are the barometer of a society’s health. Artists are frequently free thinkers, rebels even. It takes a lot of courage to take what you feel and put it in the public eye. It takes a lot of self-honesty to get those feelings out on canvas, paper, sculpture in a way that works… an artist must always be aware of self-censorship, because that stifles creativity. Being self-aware also makes one more sensitive to the environment one lives in… is it any mystery that artists are usually the first ones to see and express that which is anathema to them?
Art is often understood as a comment upon, or a reflection upon our society. As observers, artists are capable of showing us a mirror of our own actions, beliefs, or political systems. Directly engaged with aesthetics, they are also capable of influencing the way we see our surroundings, or challenging the beliefs of their predecessors. link
Paris, 26 September 2013, Art Media Agency (AMA).
Censorship is the first weapon of tyrants. It is the first weapon of the fearful and close-minded, and the control freaks. Art can convey uncomfortable truths, unspoken truths. It’s not always the intention of an artist to bring to the forefront of society those things that need addressing, but sometimes that’s exactly what the intention is. My inner conviction is that this is a necessary role in our society. Awareness is a process that doesn’t just happen individually, but collectively as well. We need each other, and we need each others talents whether that is; fixing a dishwasher, repairing a road, handling finances, raising children or expressing beauty, truth, conflict and ugliness through art. We need each other, as a social species, as human beings… and the gifts we bring should never be stifled, outlawed or censored. We are all diminished when we allow this to happen.
I am not normally a rude person, nor do I try to offend others intentionally, but sometimes to truly be authentic – to speak my truth or paint my truth, rudeness or offence happens. I can’t do anything about how another takes my work, and I can’t censor myself to try to please everyone, or I might as well just stop speaking, writing and painting altogether.
I am all for personal kindness, understanding and tolerance, but never at the expense of truth, or freedom of expression.
What do you think?
Having ADD is a bit of a bummer at times.
I find it very easy to get distracted and lose my focus, especially on things that are important. Hubris gets in the way and the day-to-day tribulations pile up. Then I stop and realize that, shoot, I have yet again let things slide. Helium balloons rise to become lost in the sky, and so does my focus on my goals.
Part of it is fear. Fear of success. Part of it is procrastination. Part of it is a disorder I struggle with everyday.
So, here I am…refocusing on what is really important to me.
Happy New Year!
Going over some of my older posts this one stood out for me. It’s an idea that I find I have to remind myself of often, to stay on track. Enjoy!
It’s important to stay positive. I think that is one of the key ingredients to creating a great life. It is also important to stay true to yourself and be clear about your inner motivations and intentions.
Agenda’s are those underlying concepts and desires that structure how we operate in the world. They are our special interests – those things we feel passionate about and want to promote. They are the things that are at the bottom of our personal goals.
Most of us who are dedicated to personal growth have some sense of our place in the world, of being part of a community, whether that is global, our countries, our towns, our neighborhood or even our own small circle. We are part of a system, many systems in fact, and although we are ultimately only responsible for ourselves it would be foolish not to see that we have…
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